My team and I often take a considerable time, sometimes 30 minutes, to help our coachees dig deeper and truly get to the bottom of why the ex saw no other option than to run and hide. This can be painful and difficult to accept. Even though you never wanted this outcome, you still played a part in causing his reaction. It is important to understand your own role in all of this. Once your ex has entered a state of flight, all his further actions will only increase the distance between you. Which of your behaviors caused his flight?.Were you constantly fighting to try and win him over?.Did you often argue about a (potential) breakup/your relationship/his or her feelings?.Was his attention and effort never enough?.How needy were you in the relationship?.The question is: What is he reacting to? How have your actions caused his feelings to collapse? No, they also award themselves a prize for being a super thoughtful exвЂ¦

This way an ex n ot only gets to be on top because they ended things. This is a weak but common reaction, which is then justified by claiming that they do not want to give you any false hope by staying in touch, or that is was simply the wisest choice at the time to take a break. Your ex obviously chose to run away and stick his head in the sand like an ostrich вЂ“ he chose flight. Subconsciously we all have two reactions we can chose when faced by stress or conflict: fight or flight. He is only reacting to a situation gone sour. You may not realize this yet, but your ex is not truly calling the shots. What are the real, underlying reasons your ex is ignoring you?

He thinks, he is protecting you from further pain.Дў.

After a while your ex started feeling so superior that he lost all feelings of love for you.

He was convinced that arguing with you leads to nowhere.Your ex thought that the relationship was too much for him.It is relatively easy to grasp potential reasons for ignoring you, which are on the forefront of your exвЂ™s mind: The first layer is important because ever so often an ex will believe that ignoring you is the right thing to do. Why does your ex think he is ignoring you? With my help, try to understand why this is happening to you and how you can change your behavior in order to turn the tables and have your ex be curious about your life again and come back to you.ДЎ. Giving in to the panic and holding on to your ex, desperately trying to find out what he is doing, will drive him away for good. Your ex is totally blanking you out, he isnвЂ™t posting any updates on his social media вЂ“ or worse вЂ“ you have been blocked from seeing them? Your fear that he is completely slipping away from you must not guide your actions now. This sense of loss and desperation to want to be heard can lead to actions you will regret later on. Compared to a breakup, being ignored by someone you were once close to is a slower and potentially prolonged path to heart break. A breakup brings immediate pain and the dreadful feeling of being rejected. Whether it is you who has decided to completely cut off any connection to your ex or your ex who is ignoring you on purpose, radio silence can be a painful experience to endure. While the no contact rule has you actively changing your needy and clingy behavior, so that your ex can learn to miss you again, radio silence is more drastic. Radio silence, meaning a period of time with a complete lack of communication, has a lot in common with the no contact rule. My team and I regularly help our coachees understand why they are being treated this way and help them endure the silent treatment, so that they have the best possible chance to eventually win back their ex. Radio silence can be one of the most painful experiences following the end of a relationship. German relationship coach Emanuel Albert, known as Date Doctor Emanuel, helps you understand why being ignored hurts so much and how you can use radio silence to regain your exвЂ™s respect.Д«efore the breakup you used to be in contact every single day but now you have absolutely no idea where your ex is, who he is spending time with, what he is doing and how he is feeling.

Why radio silence works